But I will never forget you baby. Don't you worry.
We are back to four
there was supposed to be five but i guess 4 is the final number...
Tuesday, June 21, 2016
Bye Bye Melancholic Me...
But I will never forget you baby. Don't you worry.
Wednesday, June 15, 2016
if only..
I could draw her face.
Perfectly.
Beautifully.
If only I'm an artist,
I could draw her face.
And remember her eternally.
If only I'm an artist,
I could draw her face.
And take her memory with me
wherever I might be.
Because memory fades.
and disappear like a freckle of dust.
And I know i will lose her eventually.
I'm just not ready.
Not now.
Not ever.
Hopefully.
.
.
.
.
.
If only I'm an artist...
Tuesday, June 14, 2016
I miss Her
Thursday, June 9, 2016
The day I had D&C
During scanning she noticed a lot more tissues were still inside my womb. "Dang", i thought I could go back to normality. She gave me 2 options: (1) to let it come out naturally which may take weeks or months; or (2) do a D&C to clean the womb. Both comes with risks. Option (1) may lead to infection and option (2) I have to go under general anesthetic which has its own set of risks. After a brief contemplation, I decided to just go for it. Get it over and done with. At least I have a definite time to heal rather than the waiting for everything to come out with a risk that it may not come out completely and I would still need to go for D&C. Cut short process senang. Settle. She also asked if I want to get pregnant again, the question to which had me shaking my head as fast as the japanese bullet train. No no no no no no. This is it. We stop here. According to her I still can, I just need to give my womb a breather for 3 months before trying again. No no no no no no was my answer and I asked about contraception. She said it can be done. I can insert it during the minor op. Yes, problem settled.
Saturday, June 4, 2016
The one that didn't make it
Monday, May 23, 2016
Week 10
Friday, May 20, 2016
Exercising While Pregnant
- to feel better and gives energy boost
- to control weight gain
- to be healthy and fit
- to prepare the body for labour and birth
- to ease the weight loss process post pregnancy
- brisk walking
- running (if you are used to running, otherwise, stick to brisk walking)
- swimming (wonderful as you will feel weightless under water)
- yoga / pilates
- weight training (if you are used to, otherwise, get a trainer)
- aerobic / dance (ante natal aerobic/dance classes could be an option)
- pelvic floor exercises (a must to control incontinence ante and post natal)
Thursday, May 19, 2016
love comes unexpectedly
Weight Gain During Pregnancy
- Underweight: BMI below 18.5
- Normal weight: 18.5 to 24.9
- Overweight: 25.0 to 29.9
- Obese: 30.0 and above
- Underweight: 28 to 40 pounds (12.7kg - 18.1kg)
- Normal: 25 to 35 pounds (11.3kg - 15.8kg)
- Overweight: 15 to 25 pounds (6.8kg - 11.3kg)
- Obese: 11 to 20 pounds (5kg - 9kg)
- Normal: 37 to 54 pounds (16.8kg - 24.5kg)
- Overweight: 31 to 50 pounds (14kg - 22.7kg)
- Obese: 25 to 42 pounds (11.3kg - 19kg)
Calorie Intake
- First trimester does not require any extra calories.
- Second trimester an additional 340 calories a day are recommended.
- Third trimester, the recommendation is 450 calories more a day than when not pregnant.
Physical Activity
Wednesday, May 18, 2016
Week 9
Still went for my normal exercise class. A bit slow and tires easily. I try to avoid excessive vigorous moves and stayed within the beginner's moves only. Unsatisfying but got to remind myself that I can't exert myself too much. Not good for the baby...
ohh...
Wednesday, May 4, 2016
adding another number... again?
Ariz is meant to be the last. Anak bongsu. The end of the line. Penutup. Kilang is shutting down.
However, this month my period is already 11 days late according the period tracker apps. My nipples are sore but I attributed those pain to Ariz sucking too eagerly. My moods have been going ups and downs. Kejap macam naga, kejap merajuk, kejap nak sedih, kejap ok. But I attributed these yo-yo moods to PMS. Then yesterday night after work I started feeling lethargic. Penat yang tak terucap. Lemah longlai rasa badan. I attributed this tiredness to the long hours stuck in traffic jam on the way back to KL the previous day. 5 hours of jams to be specific. And some nausea which had me
However, atas dasar gatal hati, I took a pregnancy test this morning. The test was bought last period cycle because I was also late then. But the day that I planned to take the test, my period made a show. Hence a spare pregnancy test lying around at home at 6am in the morning today.
Was praying for a 1 liner. Was really hoping for a 1 liner. And then 1 line showed. OK. Patiently waiting for the test to complete and... a vague line appeared.
Sigh...
Here we go again. Life begins at 40. Yup. A new life it seems. the pregnancy tracker (yup, the period tracker has now been converted) says I am 7 weeks and 2 days pregnant today.
Nak happy ke nak mengeluh ke nak disappointed ke, tak tau la... mixed.
Still hoping its a false positive.
but my lethargic-ness feels sooo real...
I just want to sleep...
Friday, February 6, 2015
i Know. I'm a Mom too
A few weeks ago, one of my dearest friends lost her 21-month-old daughter forever when the sweet baby girl died unexpectedly and suddenly. My friend and I live on opposite sides of the country, so I took a trip to visit her for this past weekend. Admittedly, I was a nervous wreck about what I was going to say to her and her husband. How was I going to find the words to comfort them? How would I avoid saying the wrong things? I wanted to find perfect words, and, as I am a writer, words happen to be one of the few ways I truly know how to express myself.
Except I was at a complete loss over her loss. Having two healthy children at home, I felt I couldn't truly relate to her pain, so how on earth was I going to be able to comfort her during a situation that I have very little experience in? Armed with a pocket full of Bible verses and a slough of rehearsed things to say, I walked into her home and could never in a million years have foreseen the life-altering and powerful words that would be spoken between us during our time together. Except the words came from her, to me.
From her. To me.
That's right. My friend, who at this point is proving to be one of the strongest people I know, said something during her time of grief that will forever hold a spot in my heart. It was a phrase so simple, yet it has hit a chord deep inside of me. As she was describing the events leading up to the death of her daughter, she tried to express to me her complete heartbreak as she held her sweet child in the hospital during the minutes and hours after she died. Describing the time only as her worst nightmare, she said to me with tears rolling down her face, "You're a mom, you know."
You're a mom, you know.
This phrase took my breath away — as well as any composure that I had managed to keep together up until then. Because it was at that point, with that phrase, that I was able to start to understand the magnitude of her sorrow. Sure, I was completely heartbroken for her before, as death is difficult for anyone. But I'll admit that I didn't fully understand my role as her friend or as a fellow mom. See, all this time I had been looking in the wrong places for the perfect thing to say to her while I should have just looked at our simplest bond: motherhood. And while I have not experienced the pain that comes along with losing a child, I do understand the joy that she once experienced from holding her child. And to lose that? There are no words
Except maybe "I'm a mom, I know."
Losing a child is every mom's worst fear — no matter who you are or what kind of mom you choose to be. In the days since, I've been keeping this simple thought in mind when relating myself to other mommies. Sure, we all have our different ways of mothering and raising our families, but we do have one thing in common: our hearts are directly connected to our children. It makes the whole mommy wars thing seem, well, totally ridiculous.
You're a mom, you know.
So as I went with my own mom, who has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer, to her radiation treatment, I glanced over at the young mother of a small boy in the waiting room. He was maybe 3 years old (though it's hard to tell because he was so tiny). He sported a colorful Superman cape and a bland hospital mask as he sat cradled in his mom's arms. She said something quietly to him. My heart stopped. This mom ached for that mom. And the tears started to fall from my eyes despite me not knowing her one bit. Despite me only sitting in the waiting room for maybe 30 seconds. Despite my own mom sitting next to me about to have her own radiation treatment. This is crazy, I thought. I don't even know this woman.
But what I do know is that I'm a mom.
And later I was getting dinner at a takeout restaurant, and one of the employees was on the phone in the restroom. She was struggling to find a babysitter for her child while she finished her late shift. She was frantic. She was upset. She was mad. My heart skipped another beat, and the tears welled up in my eyes once again.
I know, I'm a mom.
As I went back to my mom's house, heartbroken over my friend's loss, my mother was trying to comfort me. Asking if I was OK. Me! She was the one going through radiation, I should be comforting her. And then it dawned on me as to why she was so worried about how I was doing.
She knows, she's a mom.
And on the plane on the ride home there was a new mom standing with her infant son nearly the whole four-and-a-half-hour flight because if she attempted to sit down, he wailed. She looked exhausted and frustrated. She checked her watch frequently, but she also kept on task all while kissing on his little bald head.
I know, I'm a mom.
See, it's a thread that unites us all. Helicopter moms. Free-range moms. Breastfeeding moms. Formula-feeding moms. Rich moms. Poor moms. Moms of sick kids. Moms of healthy kids. Moms. The crazy, heart-stopping love that we feel for our children runs deep through each and every one of us as moms.
And this knowledge is painful at times. It's why every sappy commercial brings us to tears. It's why we can't watch the news. It's why we get in the car and cry after we drop our kids off to their first day of school. It's why food allergies are terrifying. It's why our hearts ache when we hear about miscarriage or fertility problems. It's why we are up at night worrying about our teens. It's why the thought of our children eventually leaving the nest makes us weep into our coffee. It's why the death of another mother's child is so utterly heartbreaking . . .
It's also why we should always provide a blanket of support to all fellow moms. Not only to those who are suffering through the unimaginable pain of losing a child, but also to those mamas going through plain ol' rough times . . . and even those moms who are just having one of those days. Hug her, and if you are struggling to find the right words, all you may really need to say is, "I know, I'm a mom."
But you probably already know this. After all, you're a mom.
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Wednesday, February 4, 2015
**Post Self Reminder**
Saturday, January 3, 2015
The world wide web from a little man named Iman Aydin
At 5 years and 4 months, his IT vocab consists of the following
Kompiter
Tinet
Donlot
Pesbuk
U-chub
I-pad
I-tab
...
When i was at that age all i can remember was bathing my doll in her bathtub.
Time changes.
Children changes.
We adult adapt.
Wednesday, December 31, 2014
2 : 0 : 1 : 5
Tuesday, December 30, 2014
2014. At A Glance
Friday, August 8, 2014
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SID)
A member of an fb group where i am a silent reader posted a message that her exclusively breastfed child no 4 of nearly 4 months old passed away while sleeping when they had both happily went window shopping for a new baby carrier earlier that day. Cause unknown. I don't know her at all but her message deeply affected me.
My Ariz is nearly 4 months old. My Ariz is an exclusively breastfed baby. My Ariz is the 4th child. My Ariz is a healthy baby with no serious illness.
My Ariz is just like her baby.
And the very real risk of sudden death like that scares me to tears.
That is one of my biggest fear. And i can't stop crying
:'(
Saturday, July 19, 2014
in remembrance of MH17
17.07.2014
And lightning does strike twice.
Fresh from the grief of losing mh370 (the flight is literally lost) the nation has to face another tragedy of mh17 being shot down. My 1st thought was that these tragedies seems like Malaysia is being targeted somehow.
A tragedy. A sad sad loss. Speechless #lossforwords
#ripmh17 #prayformh17 #prayformh370
Thursday, May 15, 2014
Fakta Tentang Bayi Yg Kita Mungkin Tak Tau...
2. Bayi tiada air mata. Mereka menangis dan menjerit tetapi air mata sebenar tidak wujud sehinggalah bayi berusia 5 minggu.
3. Mereka mempunyai lebih tulang. Orang dewasa mempunyai 206 dan bayi pula 300 tulang. Kebanyakan dari tulang tersebut bercantum semasa bayi membesar.
4. Empat dari 10 bayi mempunyai tanda lahir.
5. Bayi mempunyai deria bau yang kuat. Boleh mengenali bau badan ibu sebaik dilahirkan.
6. Penglihatan bayi kabur sebaik sahaja dilahirkan.
7. Rambut bayi yang tumbuh semasa dalam rahim ibu akan gugur beransur ansur dan digantikan sepenuhnya oleh rambut baru apabila berusia 6 bulan.
8. Bayi baru lahir secara genetiknya mempunyai deria bunyi yang kuat. Boleh membezakan bunyi-buyian dan boleh mengenali suara ibu serta merta semasa dilahirkan
9. Deria rasa bayi masih tidak berbentuknya sepenuhnya semasa lahir. Tidak boleh membezakan rasa seperti manis atau masin dengan baik.
10. Jantung bayi baru lahir berdenyut diantara 120-160 degupan seminit berbanding dengan degupan jantung orang dewasa iaitu 60-80 seminit.
11. Bayi bernafas lebih cepat iaitu 30-50 nafas seminit berbanding dengan orang dewasa 16-20 nafas seminit.
12. Berat bayi bertambah 2 kali ganda dari berat semasa lahir pada usia 6 bulan.
13. Mendengarkan music klasikal menambah kepintaran bayi.
14. Bayi baru lahir tidur 15-20 jam sehari.
15. Bayi cuma mempunyai satu lapisan kulit sebab itulah ia akan alah dan kemerahan dengan senang kepada losyen wangi, sentuhan kasar, gigitan serangga dan sebagainya.
16. Bayi mempunyai kebolehan menyelam sebaik dilahirkan tetapi kebolehan tersebut akan hilang dengan cepatnya.
Wednesday, May 7, 2014
24
His name was officially registered on the 15th day.